She Posts Every Custody Exchange Online – What Should I Do?

You're doing your best to show up calmly for each custody exchange, but your ex films, photographs, and posts it all online. It's humiliating, unnecessary, and disturbing. You're not alone.

Posting custody exchanges is often part of a narcissist's playbook: using performative outrage and fake victim-hood to control the narrative. While this may not seem directly harmful, it often paints a warped image of you, affects your child emotionally, and incites online harassment.

Start documenting. Take note of each post—date, time, content, captions. Take screenshots and use tools to preserve metadata if possible. If you feel unsafe, consider calmly recording the exchange yourself, strictly for legal protection. But never engage or post in response.

Courts view a parent publicly broadcasting custody exchanges as deeply problematic. Children should not be part of a public narrative. It invades their privacy and shows a lack of judgment. Judges often look down on parents who weaponize social media.

You may be able to file a motion to stop this behavior. Some jurisdictions allow for specific social media clauses in parenting plans. You can request that neither party record or post content related to custody exchanges or your child.

Also, keep track of your own behavior. Stay calm, punctual, and focused during exchanges. If your ex is trying to bait you into reacting, don’t give them the satisfaction. Your consistency and maturity will stand out.

If your child is old enough to see these posts or hear about them from others, you may want to speak with a child therapist. They can help your child process the confusion and emotional distress caused by a parent oversharing.

It’s also important to communicate with your attorney about what’s happening. They can help you document and present your concerns to the court in a way that emphasizes the harm to your child and to the co-parenting relationship.

And if the posts result in harassment from third parties (friends, followers, or even strangers), make a record of that as well. Show the ripple effect. This bolsters your position that the behavior is not just inappropriate—it’s harmful.

Also Consider Using the Police Station for Custody Exchanges Can Be a Smart, Safe Move

When custody exchanges become high-conflict or emotionally charged, one of the most effective tools in your co-parenting toolbox is relocating the hand-off to a local police station. While it may seem extreme at first, it’s a proactive move that communicates one thing: you’re here to keep the peace, not fuel the fire.

Safety, Structure, and Documentation

Police departments are public, secure, and monitored—exactly what many parents need when dealing with a combative or manipulative ex. The visibility alone often diffuses hostile behavior. Most stations have designated areas or parking spots specifically for custody exchanges, and the entire environment is built around accountability.

No More “He Said, She Said”

When exchanges occur in front of law enforcement buildings, it reduces the likelihood of false accusations, last-minute interference, or emotional outbursts. If your ex has a pattern of weaponizing accusations or trying to provoke you, this move can serve as a neutralizer. If something does happen, help is seconds away—and so is potential documentation or camera footage.

Courts Respect Proactive Problem-Solving

Judges want to see parents making responsible, child-centered decisions. Choosing the police station is not about punishment or escalation—it’s about consistency, safety, and protecting your child from witnessing parental hostility. If you’ve already had issues during exchanges, this kind of structure will often be welcomed by the court.

Let the Other Parent Be the One to Object

If your ex refuses to agree to the police station? Let them explain why they don’t want to be near law enforcement during a public exchange. That objection speaks volumes.

In high-conflict cases, professionalism and strategy always win. This one change could dramatically lower stress, reduce chaos, and shield your child from further emotional harm.

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