When He Uses Custody Threats to Control You—Here’s What to Do
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- 21 hours ago
- 4 min read
It always starts the same way. A disagreement turns sharp. He raises his voice, then leans in and says:
“You don’t even work. I’ll take full custody.”
For stay-at-home moms going through separation or divorce, these words are designed to hit you where it hurts—the bond you’ve built with your kids.
This isn’t just a legal scare tactic. It’s emotional abuse. It’s an attempt to make you feel powerless, even though you’ve done the lion’s share of the parenting. And you are not powerless.
The Reality Behind the Threat
Courts don’t award custody based on who earns the paycheck. They care about what’s best for the child—and that means considering:
Who’s been the consistent caregiver
Who knows the child’s daily rhythms
Who provides emotional support and stability
If that’s you—and for most stay-at-home moms, it is—his threats have no legal leg to stand on.
What You Can Do Right Now
Stop reacting emotionally. He wants to destabilize you. Don’t let him.
Start documenting your care giving. Meals, school runs, bedtime, homework. Record it.
Talk to a family law attorney. Not to fight—yet—but to prepare.
Custody is not about financial dominance. It’s about presence, consistency, and parenting history. You have that.
Why He’s Really Saying It
Men who say things like this usually:
Want to maintain control
Fear losing time with the kids, but won’t admit it
Think intimidation will win negotiations
Don’t negotiate with fear. Work with facts.
When It’s Time to Push Back
If you’re hearing this threat on repeat, it’s time to draw boundaries. Tell him:
“That’s not how custody works. The court looks at what’s best for the child—and I’ve been their everyday parent.”
Or better yet, say nothing—and let your attorney say it for you in court.
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About Michael Capleone, Attorney at Law
Michael Capleone is a seasoned family law attorney based in Hoover, Alabama, with over 22+ years of experience helping clients navigate complex legal challenges, including divorce, child custody, parental rights, grandparent’s rights, military divorces, petition for protection from abuse, CPS and DHR matters, father’s rights, mother’s rights, relationship advice, pets/ animal custody when a relationship or marriage ends, and general family law matters, co-parenting, dealing with a narcissist, emotional recovery, and much more! As a licensed practicing attorney since 2003, is a dedicated advocate for his clients, Michael understands the emotional and legal complexities of family law cases and works tirelessly to secure favorable outcomes in his law practice.
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