My Ex Undermines Me During Phone Calls with My Children – What Can I Do?

Phone and video calls are lifelines when you don’t have physical custody of your children. But what happens when your ex uses those calls to poison your bond, interfere with communication, or plant seeds of confusion and hostility?

This subtle form of sabotage is more common—and more damaging—than most people realize.

As a family law attorney, I’ve seen what happens when parents tolerate this too long: the child pulls away emotionally, the relationship erodes, and the targeted parent feels helpless.

Let’s fix that.

Step 1: Identify What’s Really Happening

Common forms of call interference include:

• Cutting calls short or refusing to hand the phone over

• Standing nearby and coaching the child

• Letting the child say hurtful things without correction

• Undermining your authority with snide remarks

Even passive behaviors—like consistently “forgetting” scheduled calls—can build a wall between you and your child.

Step 2: Don’t Take the Bait

Stay calm. Your child may be repeating what they hear from the other parent. Respond with love, consistency, and boundaries.

You’re not just fighting for phone time. You’re fighting for emotional access—the right to be present, involved, and heard.

Step 3: Document and Prepare

Use a parenting app. Track patterns. Note missed or sabotaged calls. That documentation is key to requesting legal relief.

Step 4: Ask the Court for Help

In Alabama, courts may modify parenting plans if the current one is no longer working or harming the child. If calls are being sabotaged, you can:

• Request scheduled, uninterrupted calls

• Ask for make-up time when calls are missed

• Push for professional monitoring or therapeutic intervention

Step 5: Stay Child-Centered

Always focus on your child’s needs—not your ex’s behavior. Keep conversations positive, emotionally supportive, and loving.

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About Michael Capleone, Attorney at Law

Michael Capleone is a seasoned family law attorney based in Hoover, Alabama, with over 22+ years of experience helping clients navigate complex legal challenges, including divorce, child custody, parental rights, grandparent’s rights, military divorces, petition for protection from abuse, CPS and DHR matters, father’s rights, mother’s rights, relationship advice, and general family law matters, co-parenting, dealing with a narcissist, emotional recovery, As a licensed practicing attorney since 2003, is a dedicated advocate for his clients, Michael understands the emotional and legal complexities of family law cases and works tirelessly to secure favorable outcomes in his law practice.

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