My Ex Tells Everyone I Don’t Pay Child Support – What Can I Do?
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- Apr 16
- 2 min read
Updated: 7 days ago
By Attorney Michael Capleone | Family & Divorce Attorney | Hoover, AL
False accusations during and after divorce are sadly common—but when your ex claims you’re not paying child support, the stakes get serious. Even if you’ve never missed a payment, the lie can travel fast—and do real harm to your reputation, your career, and your bond with your child.
Here’s how to protect yourself legally and emotionally—whether you’re in Alabama or anywhere across the U.S.
Step 1: Gather Your Payment Records
If you're making your payments, you have nothing to hide—so prove it. Collect bank statements, receipts, and records from the child support agency or court. Keep them organized and easily accessible.
Step 2: Document the Lies
Take screenshots of texts, social media posts, and messages that falsely claim you’re not supporting your child. Note who heard the lie, when, and what harm it caused (job problems, parental alienation, etc.).
Step 3: Consider Legal Action
A cease and desist letter from your attorney can often stop the behavior quickly. In more severe cases, a defamation lawsuit may be appropriate—especially if the lie is damaging your career or custody rights.
Step 4: Use Family Court to Your Advantage
If you’re currently in court or expect to be, present this behavior to the judge. Family law courts take a dim view of one parent spreading lies—especially in front of children. You may be able to request a non-disparagement order.
Step 5: Protect Your Child’s Trust
Even if your ex is trying to damage your relationship with your child, don’t fall into the trap of bad-mouthing them in return. Stay calm, reassuring, and child-focused. Kids grow up—and the truth matters.
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Disclaimer: This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Every case is unique. For legal guidance tailored to your situation, please consult an experienced family law attorney licensed in your state.
