My Ex Coaches My Kid to Say Things – How Do I Prove It in Court?
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- 1 day ago
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Introduction: What It Really Takes to Deal with a Narcissist Ex
If you’re dealing with a narcissist ex, you already know: this isn’t just a breakup or a divorce—it’s psychological warfare. Narcissists don’t “move on.” They seek control, dominance, and attention, long after the relationship has ended. And if children are involved, or assets are being divided, the stakes are even higher. What makes it harder is that most people around you don’t understand what you’re facing. They’ll say “just ignore them,” “don’t stoop to their level,” or “take the high road.” But those surface-level suggestions don’t work when you’re dealing with someone who lies convincingly, manipulates the court system, triangulates your children, or uses every minor disagreement as an opportunity to cause chaos. Whether you're co-parenting, still in the middle of a custody battle, or trying to rebuild your life post-divorce, dealing with a narcissist ex requires more than emotional strength—it requires a plan. One grounded in reality, supported by legal awareness, and fortified by clear boundaries.
As an experienced family law attorney, I’ve helped countless clients navigate the legal and emotional minefield that comes with divorcing or co-parenting with a narcissist. I’ve seen how narcissists push people to the brink—mentally, emotionally, and financially. And I’ve seen how the right strategy can protect your peace, your children, and your future.
In every post and guide I write, I aim to give you clear, practical information—not generic advice. If you're looking for a sign that you’re not crazy, not alone, and not powerless—this is it. You don’t need to play the narcissist’s game. You need to stay three steps ahead of it. Let’s get to work.
It’s a terrible feeling when your child starts repeating things they never would’ve said before—accusations, exaggerated events, or clear adult language. If your ex is coaching your child, it’s emotional abuse and a serious issue in family court.
Red Flags of Coaching
Your child uses language that sounds too adult
They suddenly fear you or accuse you of things that didn’t happen
The allegations change based on your ex’s custody schedule
Your child becomes withdrawn or scripted in conversations
Why It’s So Damaging
Coaching a child to speak against a parent destroys the bond between parent and child. Courts take it seriously—when proven. But the challenge is getting that proof without harming the child further.
What to Do Immediately
Stay calm with your child. Don’t interrogate them.
Journal every suspicious incident with dates and quotes
Use a co-parenting app to keep records of communication
What NOT to Do
Don’t confront your child about coaching
Don’t accuse your ex in front of your child
Don’t act out emotionally—it will be used against you
How to Prove It in Court
Ask your attorney to request a Guardian ad Litem
Use therapy records (if applicable)
Present written documentation and patterns of behavior
Ask for psychological evaluations or child interviews
Final Thought
This isn’t just about court—it’s about protecting your child from emotional harm. Our full guide, "What to Do If Your Ex Is Turning the Kids Against You – Parental Alienation" walks you through exactly what to do.
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About Michael Capleone, Attorney at Law
Michael Capleone is a seasoned family law attorney based in Hoover, Alabama, with over 22+ years of experience helping clients navigate complex legal challenges, including divorce, child custody, parental rights, grandparent’s rights, military divorces, petition for protection from abuse, CPS and DHR matters, father’s rights, mother’s rights, relationship advice, pets/ animal custody when a relationship or marriage ends, and general family law matters, co-parenting, dealing with a narcissist, emotional recovery, and much more! As a licensed practicing attorney since 2003, is a dedicated advocate for his clients, Michael understands the emotional and legal complexities of family law cases and works tirelessly to secure favorable outcomes in his law practice.
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