Co-Parenting After a Dissolved PFA – Healing, Boundaries, and Protecting Your Child
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- Jul 8
- 5 min read
PFAs and Restraining Orders as Legal Leverage in Divorce and Custody Battles
Protection From Abuse (PFA) orders and restraining orders are designed to protect individuals from legitimate threats of violence, harassment, or abuse. But in high-conflict divorce or custody battles—especially involving a narcissistic or manipulative ex—these tools are sometimes weaponized for leverage rather than protection.
The reason is simple: accusation equals advantage.
A temporary PFA can:
Force the accused parent out of the home
Suspend or restrict custody or visitation
Create a perception of danger that influences judges, DHR, and the GAL
Affect temporary support rulings, property control, and living arrangements
All of this can happen before the accused ever has a chance to defend themselves in court. That’s the power of an emergency or ex parte order. In some cases, the accuser knows exactly what they’re doing. They file a PFA to tilt the playing field, secure immediate control, or build a false narrative that supports sole custody later on. The damage to your credibility begins the moment you’re served. But here’s the truth: false accusations don’t hold forever when faced with facts, preparation, and legal strategy. Judges see these patterns. GALs and DHR workers can spot manipulation over time. What matters most is how you respond—not react.
Your strategy must focus on:
Preserving evidence and timelines
Avoiding emotional missteps
Letting your attorney guide every move
Demonstrating your stability, especially in front of the GAL and court
False PFAs are frustrating. But with the right support, they can be exposed for what they are: legal tactics, not legitimate threats. When a Protection From Abuse order is lifted, the legal spotlight fades—but the emotional and logistical struggles often intensify. Co-parenting with a narcissist or high-conflict ex after a PFA has been dissolved demands vigilance, clarity, and strategy.
Don’t Let the End of the PFA Mean the End of Your Boundaries
Just because the court order is gone doesn’t mean your need for boundaries is. In fact, they matter more than ever.
Communicate in writing only (email or parenting apps)
Stick to the parenting plan—no improvising or informal trades
Do not engage emotionally—use short, factual replies
Document everything
Protecting Your Child Without Fueling the Fire
Your child may still be exposed to emotional manipulation or pressure from the other parent. Instead of trying to “correct” that parent:
Focus on creating a safe, consistent home with you
Offer open emotional space without interrogation
Consider counseling or therapy if appropriate
Rebuilding Trust with the Court (and Yourself)
If a false accusation led to the PFA, this is your moment to reestablish long-term credibility:
Stay out of court unless necessary
Demonstrate stability over time
Avoid reactive behavior—even if provoked
This stage is about showing—not telling—the court, GAL, and DHR that you are grounded, protective, and focused. Co-parenting after a PFA is not about forgiving or forgetting. It’s about staying two steps ahead to protect your peace and your parenting rights.
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About Michael Capleone, Attorney at Law
Michael Capleone is a seasoned family law attorney based in Hoover, Alabama, with over 22+ years of experience helping clients navigate complex legal challenges, including divorce, child custody, parental rights, grandparent’s rights, military divorces, petition for protection from abuse, CPS and DHR matters, father’s rights, mother’s rights, relationship advice, pets/ animal custody when a relationship or marriage ends, and general family law matters, co-parenting, dealing with a narcissist, emotional recovery, and much more! As a licensed practicing attorney since 2003, is a dedicated advocate for his clients, Michael understands the emotional and legal complexities of family law cases and works tirelessly to secure favorable outcomes in his law practice.
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