The Ex Recording Me Without Consent – And Can It be Used Against Me?
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- 1 day ago
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Introduction: What It Really Takes to Deal with a Narcissist Ex
If you’re dealing with a narcissist ex, you already know: this isn’t just a breakup or a divorce—it’s psychological warfare. Narcissists don’t “move on.” They seek control, dominance, and attention, long after the relationship has ended. And if children are involved, or assets are being divided, the stakes are even higher. What makes it harder is that most people around you don’t understand what you’re facing. They’ll say “just ignore them,” “don’t stoop to their level,” or “take the high road.” But those surface-level suggestions don’t work when you’re dealing with someone who lies convincingly, manipulates the court system, triangulates your children, or uses every minor disagreement as an opportunity to cause chaos. Whether you're co-parenting, still in the middle of a custody battle, or trying to rebuild your life post-divorce, dealing with a narcissist ex requires more than emotional strength—it requires a plan. One grounded in reality, supported by legal awareness, and fortified by clear boundaries.
As an experienced family law attorney, I’ve helped countless clients navigate the legal and emotional minefield that comes with divorcing or co-parenting with a narcissist. I’ve seen how narcissists push people to the brink—mentally, emotionally, and financially. And I’ve seen how the right strategy can protect your peace, your children, and your future.
In every post and guide I write, I aim to give you clear, practical information—not generic advice. If you're looking for a sign that you’re not crazy, not alone, and not powerless—this is it.
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You’re on the phone with your ex, and suddenly you get the feeling—she’s recording you. Or maybe your child slips and says, “Mommy told me to keep the phone in my pocket when I talk to you.”
It’s more common than you think. Narcissistic or high-conflict exes love to gather recordings, hoping to catch you sounding angry or unhinged. Here’s what you need to know.
Is It Legal?
In Alabama and many other one-party consent states, only one person needs to know a conversation is being recorded. That means your ex could legally record phone calls or in-person conversations if she’s part of the conversation. But recording a private conversation that you’re not part of, like putting a device in your home or car? That’s likely illegal under federal wiretap laws.
Can It Be Used in Court?
Sometimes, yes. Judges may consider recordings if:
The recording was made legally
It directly relates to the welfare of the child
It reflects a pattern of behavior (e.g., abuse, threats)
However, illegally obtained recordings are often excluded—and can backfire.
How to Protect Yourself
Assume every conversation is recorded—stay calm, clear, and respectful
Communicate through co-parenting apps (recorded and court-admissible)
Never admit to anything over text or phone
What If You Need to Record Your Ex?
In a one-party state, you can legally record your conversations with your ex. But consult with an attorney first—especially if custody is involved.
Final Tip
If you’re dealing with an ex who records you as a weapon, you need to understand the laws and how to flip the script. Our full guide, Alabama Law on Recording Conversations – What’s Admissible? ", explains how to handle digital evidence.
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About Michael Capleone, Attorney at Law
Michael Capleone is a seasoned family law attorney based in Hoover, Alabama, with over 22+ years of experience helping clients navigate complex legal challenges, including divorce, child custody, parental rights, grandparent’s rights, military divorces, petition for protection from abuse, CPS and DHR matters, father’s rights, mother’s rights, relationship advice, pets/ animal custody when a relationship or marriage ends, and general family law matters, co-parenting, dealing with a narcissist, emotional recovery, and much more! As a licensed practicing attorney since 2003, is a dedicated advocate for his clients, Michael understands the emotional and legal complexities of family law cases and works tirelessly to secure favorable outcomes in his law practice.
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