Navigating Therapist Interactions When Therapy Is Being Weaponized

When therapy is introduced into a custody or co-parenting situation, it’s usually a good thing—meant to help the children cope, communicate, and stabilize. But when you’re dealing with a high-conflict ex, therapy can be weaponized. Suddenly, you’re hearing phrases like “the therapist says the child is afraid of you” or “the counselor thinks you're emotionally unavailable.” These claims can be vague, unsubstantiated—and extremely damaging in court.

If your ex is weaponizing therapy against you, here's what you can do to regain control of the narrative, protect yourself legally, and keep the focus on your child’s well-being.

1. Request Transparent Communication with the Therapist

If the therapist is court-appointed or mutual, you may have the right to request periodic updates or session summaries. Politely and professionally email the therapist with a request for a joint meeting, or ask for written summaries of what’s being reported. Focus your request on your child's needs and your desire to support them emotionally—not on refuting your ex.

Use phrases like:

• “I want to make sure I’m supporting the therapeutic process.”

• “I’d like to better understand how I can reinforce what’s being worked on in sessions.”

2. Ask These Key Questions (Respectfully)

• How do you ensure both parents’ perspectives are represented fairly?

• Have you observed any signs of coaching or external influence on my child?

• Do you document sessions, and if so, how are those shared?

• Are recommendations or impressions shared directly with the court?

These questions keep the therapist alert to potential manipulation and signal that you are paying attention—and not easily dismissed.

3. Do Not Disparage the Therapist or Your Ex

Even if you suspect bias or collusion, stay composed and respectful. Keep your tone professional in all written communication. Assume every message may be read by a judge later.

4. Document Every Exchange

If your ex references things the therapist allegedly said, ask for those statements in writing. If your child repeats something troubling, write it down with the date, time, and context. Over time, patterns emerge—and that documentation can be invaluable in court.

5. Consider an Independent Custody Evaluation

If you suspect the therapist is being manipulated—or is biased—consider requesting an independent custody evaluator through the court. These professionals are neutral, court-approved, and trained to look beyond surface-level claims.

Bottom Line: Your ex weaponizing therapy is more common than you think—but with calm, strategic steps and focused documentation, you can protect your parenting rights and steer the narrative back to the truth.

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About Michael Capleone, Attorney at Law

Michael Capleone is a seasoned family law attorney based in Hoover, Alabama, with over 22+ years of experience helping clients navigate complex legal challenges, including divorce, child custody, parental rights, grandparent’s rights, military divorces, petition for protection from abuse, CPS and DHR matters, father’s rights, mother’s rights, relationship advice, pets/ animal custody when a relationship or marriage ends, and general family law matters, co-parenting, dealing with a narcissist, emotional recovery, and much more! As a licensed practicing attorney since 2003, is a dedicated advocate for his clients, Michael understands the emotional and legal complexities of family law cases and works tirelessly to secure favorable outcomes in his law practice.

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