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The Trauma Bond: Why You Can’t Let Go of a Toxic Ex

  • Michael Capleone, Sr.
  • 5 days ago
  • 1 min read

You know they were toxic. They manipulated you, lied, and caused emotional chaos. So why do you still feel drawn to them?


That powerful, confusing pull is called a trauma bond—and it's more common than people realize.

A trauma bond forms when a narcissistic or abusive partner alternates between cruelty and affection. This emotional rollercoaster rewires your brain, keeping you hooked even when you logically know the relationship is unhealthy.


The problem? Trauma bonding can cloud your judgment during divorce and custody battles. It can lead you to agree to unfavorable terms, delay filings, or even defend your abuser.

In Alabama and nationwide, narcissists often use trauma bonding as a weapon—especially when kids are involved.

To break free:

  • Set hard legal and emotional boundaries

  • Use communication apps like OurFamilyWizard

  • Keep detailed records of manipulation

  • Work with a trauma-informed attorney


Don’t let your trauma bond sabotage your case. You deserve peace, clarity, and a life free from emotional captivity. Read the full guide.


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Legal Disclaimer: This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Reading this post does not create an attorney-client relationship. Every case is unique—please consult with a qualified family law attorney licensed in your jurisdiction to discuss your specific situation. 


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