Thanksgiving Holidays and Divorce: You’ve Got This!
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- Apr 7
- 4 min read
Updated: 7 days ago
Thanksgiving is traditionally a time to gather with loved ones, reflect on gratitude, and enjoy family traditions. But if you're going through a divorce—or recently finalized one—the holiday may feel more like a painful reminder of everything that’s changed.
The truth is, Thanksgiving after separation can be emotional, awkward, and even overwhelming—but it can also be the beginning of a new chapter. With the right mindset, support, and strategy, you can get through it—and come out stronger.
As a divorce and family law attorney in Hoover, Alabama, I’ve helped countless clients navigate their first holidays post-divorce. Whether you're still in the middle of legal proceedings or adjusting to a new custody schedule, here’s how to not only survive—but thrive—this Thanksgiving.
Why the Holidays Feel So Heavy During Divorce
The emotional weight of Thanksgiving during divorce is real. It’s not just about missing traditions—it’s about identity shifts, co-parenting challenges, and learning to let go of the old version of your family dynamic.
Here are some common struggles:
You may feel lonely even when surrounded by others.
You may have to share or miss time with your children due to custody arrangements.
You might be grieving the loss of holiday traditions, routines, or extended family gatherings.
You could be dealing with conflict or manipulation if your ex is high-conflict or narcissistic.
These feelings are valid—but they don’t have to define your holiday.
You’ve Got This: Practical Tips for Surviving Thanksgiving During Divorce
1. Accept That This Year May Look Different—And That’s OK
Let go of perfection. Thanksgiving doesn’t have to look the way it used to in order to be meaningful. Creating new traditions—whether it’s a small dinner with your kids or
friends gathering—can be incredibly healing.
2. Put the Kids First
If you have children, they may be confused or emotional about the changes too. Reassure them that both parents still love them and that the holiday can still be special. Focus on creating a peaceful, drama-free environment in your home.
Even if you don’t have them on Thanksgiving Day, consider celebrating “Thanksgiving Part 2” when they return. It’s the quality of time—not the calendar date—that matters most.
3. Stick to Your Custody Agreement
This one is big. If your parenting plan lays out a holiday schedule, follow it to the letter. If your ex tries to manipulate or guilt you into last-minute changes, refer back to the agreement. Consistency and documentation matter, especially in high-conflict divorces.
4. Prioritize Self-Care and Gratitude
It may sound cliché, but intentionally practicing gratitude—even for small things—can shift your mindset in powerful ways. Whether it's a quiet moment with coffee or laughter from your children, focus on what’s still good in your life.
Also, don’t be afraid to say no to gatherings that don’t feel emotionally safe. Protect your peace this season.
5. Lean on Your Support System
Divorce can feel isolating, but you are not alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who understand what you're going through. Talking with a therapist can also be a powerful way to process your emotions during the holidays.
Rebuilding Holiday Traditions: A New Beginning
Thanksgiving during or after divorce isn’t just about surviving—it’s about starting fresh. This is your opportunity to redefine what the holidays mean to you and your family. Think about:
Trying a new recipe with your kids
Volunteering at a food drive or shelter
Hosting a casual dinner with close friends
Traveling to a new place for a reset
There’s no one “right” way to celebrate. The freedom to create new memories is one of the silver linings in this season of change.
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What If You’re Dealing with a Difficult Ex?
Unfortunately, some divorces involve narcissists or high-conflict ex-spouses who take every opportunity—especially during holidays—to stir up tension. If your ex is being uncooperative, overly controlling, or disruptive to your parenting time, here are a few tips:
Communicate in writing only (text, email, or a co-parenting app).
Don’t respond emotionally. Keep it calm, short, and fact-based.
Document every incident in case you need to take legal action.
Don’t let guilt sway you into giving up your rights.
If the situation becomes too toxic or threatens the emotional well-being of your children, talk to a family law attorney about modifying custody or adding communication restrictions.
When to Talk to a Divorce Attorney
If you're in the early stages of divorce—or still managing legal or custody issues—you don’t have to do it alone. Holidays are a critical time to ensure your parenting plan is clear and enforceable.
As a divorce attorney in Hoover, Alabama, I help clients all over the Birmingham metro area protect their parenting time, communicate with difficult exes, and resolve family law disputes fairly and efficiently.
Thanksgiving Is About New Beginnings—And You’ve Got This
This year might feel different, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be meaningful. Whether you’re facing Thanksgiving as a single parent, navigating your first co-parenting holiday, or simply trying to keep the peace—remember this:
You are not broken. You are rebuilding.
Divorce is hard, especially around the holidays. But it also opens the door to create a life that is healthier, more peaceful, and more authentically you. One Thanksgiving at a time.
Need Legal Help During the Holidays? Let’s Talk.
If you're navigating divorce, custody concerns, or high-conflict co-parenting during Thanksgiving, don’t wait for things to escalate. Let’s work together to protect your rights, your time with your kids, and your peace of mind.
Schedule a consultation today with Attorney Michael Capleone a compassionate, an experienced Alabama family law attorney who understands what you’re going through—and how to help.
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Disclaimer: This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Every case is unique. For legal guidance tailored to your situation, please consult an experienced family law attorney licensed in your state.
