Navigating DHR, GAL, CPS & Your Attorney After Being Served with a PFA
- Michael Capleone, Sr.
- Jul 8
- 5 min read
PFAs and Restraining Orders as Legal Leverage in Divorce and Custody Battles
Protection From Abuse (PFA) orders and restraining orders are designed to protect individuals from legitimate threats of violence, harassment, or abuse. But in high-conflict divorce or custody battles—especially involving a narcissistic or manipulative ex—these tools are sometimes weaponized for leverage rather than protection.
The reason is simple: accusation equals advantage.
A temporary PFA can:
Force the accused parent out of the home
Suspend or restrict custody or visitation
Create a perception of danger that influences judges, DHR, and the GAL
Affect temporary support rulings, property control, and living arrangements
All of this can happen before the accused ever has a chance to defend themselves in court. That’s the power of an emergency or ex parte order. In some cases, the accuser knows exactly what they’re doing. They file a PFA to tilt the playing field, secure immediate control, or build a false narrative that supports sole custody later on. The damage to your credibility begins the moment you’re served. But here’s the truth: false accusations don’t hold forever when faced with facts, preparation, and legal strategy. Judges see these patterns. GALs and DHR workers can spot manipulation over time. What matters most is how you respond—not react.
Your strategy must focus on:
Preserving evidence and timelines
Avoiding emotional missteps
Letting your attorney guide every move
Demonstrating your stability, especially in front of the GAL and court
False PFAs are frustrating. But with the right support, they can be exposed for what they are: legal tactics, not legitimate threats. If you've been served with a PFA, there’s a high chance that other systems have been activated: DHR (Department of Human Resources), CPS (Child Protective Services), and possibly a Guardian ad Litem (GAL). Your attorney will also become your lifeline. Knowing how to navigate these players isn’t optional—it’s essential.
First: Cooperate Without Oversharing
It’s critical to strike the right tone: cooperative, respectful, and credible—without volunteering too much.
When speaking with DHR or CPS:
Avoid defensiveness
Answer questions factually
Never guess or speculate
Do not badmouth your ex—stay focused on the child
These agencies are trained to assess demeanor as much as facts.
Second: Know the GAL’s Role
If a GAL is appointed, their job is to represent the best interests of the child, not either parent. Your job is to show that:
You are stable and safe
You are child-focused, not angry or combative
You can provide structure and consistency
Be honest. Don’t try to “game” the GAL. Their recommendations carry weight with the judge.
Third: Partner With Your Attorney Intelligently
Your attorney will:
Prepare you for court
Help you gather evidence
Cross-examine your accuser
Interact with DHR and GAL as needed
You should:
Respond quickly to all communications
Follow all advice, even if emotionally difficult
Ask for updates and prepare questions in advance
This is a crisis, yes—but it's also an opportunity to prove you’re calm under pressure, centered on your child, and serious about resolution.
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—Written by Michael L. Capleone, Esq. | Alabama Family Law Attorney | All rights reserved.
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