DHR or CPS Showed Up at My Door — What Should I Say or Not Say?

There’s a knock at the door—and it’s Child Protective Services (CPS). Your heart pounds.

Whether it's called CPS, DHR, DCFS, or DFCS in your state, the fear is the same. One wrong move could spiral into court dates, lost custody, or even criminal charges. So what do you say—and what do you absolutely avoid? Written by Attorney Michael Capleone

First Rule: Stay Calm and Don’t Talk Too Much

When a CPS worker shows up unexpectedly, the last thing you want to do is panic and overshare. Do not admit to anything, try to explain “your side,” or defend your parenting. Anything you say can be used in their reports. Say This Instead:

• “I’m happy to cooperate, but I would like to speak to an attorney first.”

• “Can I have your name, badge number, and a copy of the allegations?”

• “Do you have a warrant or court order to enter my home?”

Do NOT Say:

• “I just spanked him once.”

• “My ex is doing this to get back at me.”

• “Sure, come in and look around.”

Even casual comments can be twisted or misunderstood in the official report.

Do You Have to Let Them In?

No. Unless they have a warrant or believe your child is in immediate danger, you do not have to let them in. Ask them to come back at a scheduled time after you've spoken with legal counsel.

What About Your Kids?

In many states, CPS can talk to your kids at school without your permission. But you can tell your children not to answer any questions without a parent or lawyer present, and you can inform the school to notify you immediately of any visits.

Take Control Now

If CPS is involved, you need a plan—fast. That’s why I created the guide CPS Knocked — What Now? It gives you exact scripts, legal tips, and the step-by-step actions to protect your family.

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Disclaimer: This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Every case is unique. For legal guidance tailored to your situation, please consult an experienced family law attorney licensed in your state.